As I did not go too deep last time, I decided to write about love today. Very strong thing happened yesterday that I got affected too much.
I believe everybody is willing to find their love, we travel places to reach to them, we do hidden things just to be with them. Why human beings are so keen to find their another half? Is there any state of mind that you are complete solely? What is right and what is wrong? Being together or being happy by yourself? For each individual the answer is different.
So, let’s talk about one girl who always finds the hardest people to be with and falls in love.
I asked her:
– Why are you doing this to you, again and again?
She said:
– Because I want to love and be loved in return.
– But why you always find impossible loves that give you more torture?
– Because it is fun, the pain is bringing more light to your soul as Rumi says.
– But you know that he is not right for you, don’t you?
– Yes, I do. But I love him with unconditional love…
-You do not want to plan the future, what will bring you more benefits, do you?
-I don’t, not anymore. All I need is just to love and be loved in return and live the moment, be happy for what we have in hand. I believe in “if there is a will there is a way”…
…and then we continued to chat with never ending “but”s…
Ok, fair enough. What is unconditional love? There must be a limit to unconditional love and self-respect. I understand the state of mind when you love someone for God, accepting as he/she is. Feeling someone as one part of your body. That close, closer than your veins sometimes. You can feel everything that passes from their mind, you can feel their bugs in their brain and their weaknesses which make you more attached to them. To the point that when it is missing you feel like that part of your body is missing.
That is all perfect, understandable. When you truly love your ego should not hurt from being rejected, you should not suffer because you are not valued as much as you deserve. You need to know your own value and agree with yourself that it was your choice to love so deeply. That should be a light and positive feeling. Love doesn’t hurt. Ego does!
If you are people of different moral levels then for sure this love will not evolve. Because there is no connection. There is no intention to give, share little things that keep this love alive. Infidelity is a choice, it is not a biologic demand. Why the forbidden is so erotic? In the end of sex almost everything feels the same no matter how many bodies you try, your bruises, weaknesses, your desire being attractive for many people and that satisfaction fools you over and over again. You are on demand, oh yeah you are so irreplaceable…The key is if you prefer little new happiness control your life or you want to have something special that not others achieve. To find a person who will complete you in most circumstances by not demanding him/her to be perfect in everything.
Many people confuse love with desire and the fear of commitment also spoils the little blossoms that are just about to flower. We are our own enemy. We are a puppet of our own subconsciousness. The fear of being rejected, being hurt, being betrayed, being not loved always fights with our daily realities and these past histories that we are not even aware damages our existing chances.
Some people have hatred about love, they can’t stand seeing couples together, especially the ones who look into each other’s eyes with love and are all cuddly in social places.
I remember there was a statement I read about when the level of your love to a person exceeds the holy love level then God takes this person away from you. I was younger when I read it, I understood as I read it. It happened to me and I lost that person. But years passed, now I know what was the meaning of that statement.
God has no intention to separate anyone, God is in you. We are all creative powers that the limit that we are creating our own world. As we drag to ourselves good jobs, people to surround us we create our own heaven or hell. The minute you give your control to someone else’s hand the golden balance destroys. Noone should be loved more than yourself. Your peace is important.
Sometimes we fall in love to the beauty of ourselves, our reflection on another person. We give a meaning to tiny things such as warm hugs, glances, a different way of kissings, a different way of touching, squeezing your hand to his heart, kissing your forehead. In the end, you understand that this person actually did not mean anything or he says so for a reason. But it is too late, you already created your little hopes about how much you are being loved. It is already too late to go back. All you can do is to give up and let it flow, without pushing and wishing him sincere happiness. Your knees feel weak and you are short of breath sometimes. But love does not come by force, it is felt in the heart, in the cells of your body.
But there is a good phrase in Turkish, “it will pass, what has not passed?” Yes, it will pass, you can continue but the question is while there was such a beautiful thing in our hands why we couldn’t make it? It is all in our hands, the importance you give things make them irreplaceable.
As long as you live you will fall in love over and over again. There are always better things coming after each breakup. But you will not be at this age, not with the same soul. More experienced, more beautiful but not with the same person.
I believe in projects, starting and finishing things. Going until the end no matter of difficulties, we are all imperfect, no one says it will be easy. But at least you will look at your project and say “I CREATED THIS!” because I did not give up.
Wishing all of you peace of mind and fulfillment of heart…
Cheers to my last Love, who is not aware of how his love is the strongest ❤
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